herliege:IntimacyThe ‘exterior’ of D/s can seem so cold at times, ‘negotiation
herliege: Intimacy The ‘exterior’ of D/s can seem so cold at times, ‘negotiations’, checklists, limits, consent. And for sure, these things are very important. But at the same time, they are also a small part of what D/s can be. We reach deeper into each other than most people in a non-D/s relationship. It is, obviously, why all these ‘formalities’ are so important. But it is also part of what makes these connections so exceptional. In exposing our deepest secrets, fears, desires and needs, we create a unique connection. Two people baring themselves, allowing another into their most hidden places (and I don’t mean anal, this time ;-) ). Giving the deepest and most vulnerable parts of themselves, honestly, openly. It creates such close connections, and it inevitably also creates intimacy. Perhaps the notion of a flogger hitting skin is not everyone’s idea of a beautiful connection, but it is. Perhaps someone immobilised in tight bondage and face fucked is not everyone’s idea of intimate, but it is. A sub being fed from the fingers of a Dom? Does it get more intimate, more trusting, closer? In D/s, we touch others more deeply with what we do, how we do things. Because we open ourselves up to each other and because we find unique ways to connect. This means that, between two people in such a relationship, a finger dragged down a naked spine can mean as much as a slap on the ass. It means a fist in hair can mean as much as a whisper, a stroke with a cane as much as a kiss. We can call it ‘exploring the deepest secrets’ or an anal fuck, call it ‘stroking skin with sharp stings’ or cropping an ass, between a Dom and a sub it can be the most intimate moment. Each unique touch the mark of a unique bond. A simple hand on a hip, a lock of hair twisted around a finger, a stroke with a whip, or a hand on a throat, they can signify ownership, dominance, control, and so much more. But they can also signify the closest, most profound and most intimate connection possible. . M / Her Liege - image from the movie ‘Intimacy’ - leave credits intact. I could not have said it better myself -- source link
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