vingtiane:Direct(An open writing on healing, understanding, and learning where do our ideas fit in
vingtiane:Direct (An open writing on healing, understanding, and learning where do our ideas fit in our culture, and how can we begin to build trust in our village) I will not comprise my directness, but I am adaptable. It is not out of spite or ego, but the discipline of emotional intelligence to differ between myself and duty. You understand my intents are not malicious or controlling, but that of meeting the demands, practicing actions, and getting clear and concise results. The culture that I have learned from outside our village, that now clashes between our two worlds. We learn nothing without critique. As author Kao Kalia Yang once said, her books would have never been published, if she kept editing, revising and wanting to add more. We cannot sit idle, and wait in turn, when time itself does not for others, and when others are taking advantage of time, we are waiting on each other. What I see for the past years and past months (in Minneapolis-Saint Paul), is that same hierarchical culture that I have seen since my self-exilement: Respect the unchallenged authority; younger generations must learn to sit still, listen and behave; and everyone must be told what to do. It is the same harmful repetition that I have seen in our culture, was telling one generation to the next, that one must know their role in society and act and behave in it. Even these same practices I continue to see in our working society that highlights these disadvantages that we refuse to acknowledge and stunts our growth. Our entitlement blinds us, and it is mediocrity applauding mediocrity. We are afraid to speak up for what is wrong against those who are in power, in the same fear of retribution and being a target as we have faced in our history. The trauma and the fear wins. We must break this abusive cycle, and say that enough is enough, challenge the fears of authority, speak up for what has been done wrong in the community, and listen to those we have shut out, because they do not share our same titles. So I cannot sit still, when our community remains in a cycle of poverty, trauma and mistrust. If we cannot be open about the harm in our society, then we cannot know how to heal as a community. War is not kind, and we cannot be kind to it. We are a hurt community for the past 45 years, but we cannot continue this toxic practice of listening to only our closest pets that appeals to our nature, and being threatened by anyone that disagrees with our system. I am not expecting results right away. Healing is not linear. I am willing to listen. I am willing to compromise. I am willing to practice. But I will not sit and learn to be comfortable in our culture of waiting, at the expense of my people are dying. I am tired of this waiting game, while we are dying. If it takes a village to raise a child, then it takes a village to heal one. -- source link