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ms-demeanor:ms-demeanor: ilsa-fireswan:gothiccharmschool: ms-demeanor: saffronhare: ms-demeanor: Hey you know how I said I was going to make a workbook on the kind of bullshit you need to do when someone you love dies? I actually did that. HERE IS THE VERSION WITH LOTS OF SWEARING AT THE USELESS, SHITTY SITUATION YOU’RE IN. HERE IS THE VERSION WITH A FAIR AMOUNT OF BLACK HUMOR BUT NO CURSEWORDS. Featuring Helpful Sections such as: Death Certificates – What you need, why you need them, and how to get them Prepare to spend a long and miserable time on the phone What the Everloving Fuck is Probate Some Simple Dos and Don’ts Shitty Mad Libs – Templates for writing Obituaries and Memorials How to plan a non-religious death party So you suddenly have to become some sort of hacker or some shit This is an eighteen page book that you can print out, download, share, and give away; it is meant to be used to collect information about funeral planning and account management after a death OR you can use it BEFORE you die and give people information so they’re not stuck playing Nancy Fucking Drew while trying to keep seventeen cousins who crawled out of the woodwork from gutting each other in front of the fucking casket as they argue about who’s inheriting grandma’s favorite dentures. It’s not exactly cheerful and it’s full of things that are probably going to feel really fucking raw if you’re processing a fresh death. I’m sorry! I love you! Death is shitty! I’m trying to laugh about it a little and I hope you can laugh a little too because otherwise we’re all just going to cry together. Good luck! (in memory of my weirdo mother and her weirdo siblings who all died too fucking young and left me holding this flaming bag of dogshit) This is so radically kind, thank you You’re welcome! Life is short, kindness is what we’ve got. When my mom died it wasn’t exactly unexpected but it was still sooner than we all thought it would happen. It was a huge punch in the guts and the thought of making things and not being able to show her and share them with her still hurts but in that first month it was like drowning. So I made this for her, and shared it with and showed it to other people who are hurting, because my momma didn’t raise a quitter but she sure did raise a softhearted fool who wants everyone to feel a little more loved and a little more worthy and a little less alone. I love you. Take care. Be kind. This is important, useful, and so very damn kind. I have passed this resource on to a number of family members who have dealt with sudden death this past year and a half. Every single one, even the ones going through it for the second time in a year, have used it and appreciated it. I just verified that the links are still working on this because of the google security update, but if you’re having trouble opening it let me know and I’ll happily reupload it! There is a lot of stuff in this that is specific to the US about what is legal/possible in terms of burials, and the death certificate thing is specific to the US.But the bits on “figure out which bills need to be paid” and “how to get access to the deceased’s accounts” and “identifying information you are likely to need to get stuff done” and “info that YOU can fill out before you die to make things easier for your survivors” is very easily modified for lots and lots and lots of places. The “now you have to be a hacker or some shit” part in particular is what probably has the widest application. -- source link