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luxchels: jamaicanblackcastoroil: futureblackwakandan: saturnineaqua: neshatriumphs: luxchels: Almost every black love quote or theme focuses on black women struggling or suffering in order to build up her man/relationship so she can get the man she desires and to gain the prized status of “queen.” The majority of these quotes that people post do not include any requirements that is necessary for a black man to get a “queen.” The emphasis is always on what black women should do and should expect from a relationship. These posts highlight unrealistic and inhumane levels of strength and endurance that black women are supposed to have in order to uphold black men. Literally the last two posts imply that a woman should not expect financial stability from a man or a man who even wants to give her a gift. LMFAO. So much of the black identity is connected to the “struggle” that people have normalized that belief that you need to suffer to “win” in a relationship. At least a relationship that you have with a black man. There is an expectation for black women to put up with any and everything because we’re “queens.” It’s dangerous and detrimental and we need to collectively burn the cape and stop upholding this unrealistic narrative. No other race of women are expected to uphold their men and literally raise them as if they are children in need of protection and to be coddled, yet this is a regular trend and expectation for black women. Yes the above images are memes, but these ideas are in every form of black media. Movies, tv shows, radio shows, music, everything. Think Like a Man, Act like a Lady, Daddy’s Little Girls, and Nappily Ever After are a couple of films that come to mind that highlight how black women are supposed to build a man up or go out of our way to please black men and rarely get anything back in return. Also, each of these movies have a weird obsession with “humbling” these women so they will just accept anything from a man. Most of men in these movies can’t bring anything substantial to the table and the woman is the biggest provider if not 100% the full provider in the relationship. Very rare do we see a black woman who is successful get all the things she wanted on her bucket list relationship wise. Don’t even get me started on the music industry as R&B, Hip-Hop, and Rap are full of pick me and struggle love themes. This should not be a reoccurring theme within our media. Please stop supporting this foolishness. Please be careful so that you don’t fall for this foolishness. These memes are not examples of love, but of suffering. These memes are the representation of what being a mule is. This was about to piss me off. I was like, “Who I’m finna block done brought this to my dash?” Yo,that one with the leg and two eyeballs MUST be a JOKE Struggle love is officially over and I’m blocking/deleting anyone who engages in it or promotes it. I just have to say I love how time truth and attention counts as nothing to these dudes. ^^^^ It’s truly ironic how they believe these things have no intrinsic value and yet they expect black women to be therapist and counselors. For many of these men providing the bare minimum level of emotional intelligence is a “lot” for them because they refuse to get therapy and deal with the trauma of growing up without their fathers or dealing with their mentally ill mothers who raised them on their own without receiving the proper love, affection, and healing they needed themselves from their own trauma. That’s why a lot of these memes and even posts that black men make always want women to do the emotional labor that only a therapist and counselor can provide. They put more emphasis on materialistic things, which is why they become angry if women expect financial compensation in any form and hate to see black women spoiled. I literally saw a black man said we should spoil black women with our “time” and words. Lol. I understand everyone’s love language is different but words of affirmation and quality time in a relationship is not “spoiling” and the fact so many black men want a pat on the back for literally the bare minimum is saddening. -- source link
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