Why do men abuse women? What’s in it for them? This list was generated by participants in
Why do men abuse women? What’s in it for them? This list was generated by participants in a court-mandated batterers-intervention program in Minnesota. The facilitator asked the men what benefits they received from abusing their wives and girlfriends; the answers — unabashed and chilling — filled a 4 x 8 whiteboard. She’s scared and won’t go out and spend money She won’t argue Feeling superior: she’s accountable to me (I) get the money Total control in decision-making She feels less worthy, so defers to my needs and wants (I get) a robot babysitter, maid, sex, food Isolate her so her friends can’t confront me She works for me Convince her she’s nuts Convince her she’s unattractive Convince her she’s to blame Get to write history Kids on my side against her She won’t call police From a 1/30/14 webinar, “The Benefits of Violence: Why Give it Up?” by Chuck Derry, of the Gender Violence Institute, sponsored by the Battered Women’s Justice Project. -- source link
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