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hogytron:aspiringsorcerer: dfiscotland: redseeker: fatsexybitch: loveisffandlattes: trylonandperisphere: Wow. The patience, kindness and calm communication skills. Outstanding. From raindovemodel This made me cry. I wish all situations could be handled as perfectly as this I just want to point out the core of what the diffuser did in this conversation They recognized that the mother was also expressing a vulnerable truth about herself - that she felt like a bad mother because her child was expressing gender feelings she wasn’t equipped to help with - and met her where she was, a concerned parent with limited information - to point her where she should be heading, research and resources. Im going to make more of an effort to stop reflexively pushing people away when they express biases and make more of an effort to hear the underlying fears when i can “it’s easier to love ourselves when we feel loved as ourselves” damn that is so powerful though calm communication skills the part of this that always gets me is the reflexive twist of the parent stating, “i’m not a bad parent” and the reassurance of, “ i said you were a caring parent”. Recognizing the effort and the care, through the fear and anxiety, is so powerful. Instead of saying, “Your [[conditioned]] reaction is bad and wrong” they come through with, “Here’s something you are doing right!” “You very clearly care so much!”Positive affirmation does so much heavy lifting as a de-escalation tool, and every parent needs to know that their fears of being judged or stigmatized as a ‘bad parent’ are not automatically true when they suddenly must address a development they may not be equipped or conditioned to deal with. I’ll reblog this over and over again!! -- source link