allthingshyper: glorious-spoon:cheeseanonioncrisps:weedyshurgusburgus:anexperimentallife: This
allthingshyper: glorious-spoon: cheeseanonioncrisps: weedyshurgusburgus: anexperimentallife: This whole thread is cool and wholesome. something they have control over!!! yes!!!!!!! My number one tip for straight men (I mean, it could conceivably work for other genders and sexualities, but you’d have to adjust it quite a bit) is: inagine they’re a man. Imagine that you just randomly told some bloke in a pub that he has beautiful eyes. That you walked up behind your coworker Jim and started caressing his neck and shoulders while talking to him about the budget. That you just sent a large and unexplained bouquet of flowers to Darren in Accounting. That instead of complimenting a coworker on her breasts, you complimented him on his dick. Does the action now seem weird? Uncomfortable? Do you no longer want to do it now that it isn’t directed at somebody you are sexually attracted to? That strongly suggests that your action has a sexual aspect to it and therefore probably counts as sexual harassment! I have a large, colorful tattoo on one arm. I’ve had multiple strange men cross a room to tell me how awesome it is, frequently while I’m at work, and it has never made me uncomfortable. A couple of weeks ago, someone yelled out a car at me ‘I FUCKING LOVE YOUR BOOTS’, which was awesome. It’s just… it’s really not hard to compliment people in a way that isn’t creepy, if your goal is actually to compliment them and not to slide a ‘btw I’m thinking about fucking you’ under the radar. And the fact that some guys have NO IDEA how to do this really shows what’s wrong with our society. -- source link