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kastana:allyitis: kittenofdoomage: thinkwritexpress-official: fuckingconversations: dovewithscales: thatmadhatter: Okay, but THIS. My therapist only recently understood that when I said, “I don’t know how to make this phone call or make this appointment.” I very literally meant I didn’t know what to do. I can dial the phone, but what do I say EXACTLY? What questions are going to be asked? What do I need to have on hand? What if they ask me something I don’t know the answer to? I’m one of those people that needs very specific and detailed instructions if I’m doing something for the first time. Be patient with people. We all have our struggles. Sometimes it can make all the difference in the world knowing someone can spare a few minutes to care about you and walk you through something that’s hard for you. HOW TO MAKE AN IMPORTANT ADULT CALL FOR THE FIRST TIME From an adult who has been doing this for about a decade now: Remember that about 10% of any office’s weekly call volume is from people just like you who have never done this in their life. The mass majority of people who run dentist offices, insurance claim call centers, whatever - remember what it’s like to be completely new, and are generally happy to explain the steps and re-phrase themselves if you let them know what you’re having trouble with, and are kind and patient with them. You’re not inconveniencing them. You’re not burdening them. Call center folks are 1000x happier to speak with someone who is earnestly trying and needs some basic help on super simple things, instead of a pissy long-time customer who demands free shit. You are a bright spot in their day. A chance to actually help. So! Here’s the steps: Keep reading I can’t tell you how much I needed this. I had to ring my car insurance yesterday, which I’ve never had to do before. It was terrifying. BUT when I explained to the call center person, including calling myself a useless adult who can’t adult, and they were very kind. It’s always worth saying “I’ve never done this before” because they’re usually a kind human (apart from P.B in my office, who I won’t name, but you get her on the phone and good lord, you’ll want to throw yourself out a window. I think she wants you to throw yourself out the window too) who will assist you however they can. Here’s the Subway Reddit thread they were referencing. [ID: a screenshot of a tweet by noah michelson (verified) @/NoahMichelson that reads : “i just saw a reddit post by someone with extreme anxiety asking how to order a sandwich at subway because they’ve never tried it and someone replied and wrote out step-by-step instructions without being snarky or judgmental and it’s the kindest, sweetest thing i’ve seen in months”. It was tweeted on November 14 2019 at 8:42 pm from the twitter web client. It has 380 retweets and 2955 likes. End ID] -- source link