thequintessentialqueer:orion-rising:Always be vague. Say I think they’re in today or not until
thequintessentialqueer:orion-rising:Always be vague. Say I think they’re in today or not until later. If they press say it’s company policy not to give out the schedule. Most companies do have this and even if they don’t how would a stranger know. Don’t give out specifics, they can get people injured or even killed.At my last job someone came up and asked when “Sarah” was working next. I didn’t tell him and then texted her a description, turns out he was an abusive ex who had been stalking her. Don’t do this shit please.I work at a sex shop and this kinda shit happens constantly. when I first started out there was this one girl working here who was pretty and friendly and not good at telling people to fuck off so she had a whole litany of stalkers who would try to get me to tell them when she was in. for random people who I didn’t know anything about I would literally pretend not to know who she was (like “oh, I’m new so I don’t actually know all the girls who work here” all wide-eyed and innocent lmao), but there were some recurring creeps who knew she worked there and wanted her schedule: for those guys I would say I wasn’t permitted to give out that information or that I didn’t know, and if they persisted I’d call them the fuck out, and ban them if they still didn’t back down. most of the guys after her were easy to spot (it was usually the old creeps who rented stepdaughter porn) but one time it was an 18 year old from the nearby college who said the two of them had plans and he was supposed to meet her there today. I played dumb and got as much info off him as I could by asking him questions under the pretense of conversation. it didn’t take very long for him to expose himself: he started talking about how beautiful she was and how he wanted to date her and when I said “oh, I thought she had a boyfriend?” he said “no, most girls with boyfriends have pictures of them all over social media and she doesn’t have any pictures of a guy on her instagram or facebook, even as far back as 2014” and then he pulled up her instagram profile and started talking about how he’d shown his mom pictures of her and his mom thought she looked “slutty” but he didn’t care. then he hung around the shop for 5 whole hours waiting for her before giving up (she wasn’t even in that day lmao but I let him suffer). I made sure to get his name “so I can tell her if I see her!” and then when he left I contacted camera crew for his picture and messaged the girl about the situation. she didn’t have plans with him. she didn’t know how he got her social media. she was really fucking creeped out. we banned his ass and put his picture on our wall of shame. stalkers don’t have one easily identifiable look so don’t ever give out your coworkers info, no matter how convincing or benign the person you’re dealing with is. if someone is actually related to or friends with your coworker, they’ll have a way to contact them independent of their job. if possible, also get as much info about the person inquiring as possible so that you can adequately warn your coworker and/or file a report on them. don’t let your friendliness enable stalkers and abusers. -- source link