Both of my mothers are my real mothers. Insisting that any relationships that I have are not authent
Both of my mothers are my real mothers. Insisting that any relationships that I have are not authentic because of my status is offensive. Please, if you are actually adopted, OP, I urge you to educate yourself and actually start talking to the REAL community and start to learn what we do. I don’t believe you are adopted because your words here are incredibly ignorant.My adoptive mother, my non-abusive mother who loves me, believes me, sacrificed everything her life to take care of me, and did much for me, is “mom/mommy”. It is my choice to call her that. We have a deep relationship.My birth mother, the non-abusive woman who gave birth to me, loves me, believes in me, and stood up to a highly abusive man to save my life and make sure I had a better chance than what I was facing, is “mama”. It is my choice to call her that. We are just starting our relationship.The relationship Henry has with Regina is ABUSIVE. It does not matter what it is. What is PORTRAYED is that he must IMMEDIATELY FORGIVE HER due to the old forced idea that “if you are adopted, you must be grateful/have loyalty” that biological children are not expected to have. Being gaslit, having friends forced away (Hansel and Gretel), your family terrorized (S1+S2), your medical care interfered with (Archie), etc is TEXTBOOK ABUSE. This is not a parent. This is an abusive person, even if they love you. Being FORCED TO FORGIVE THESE PEOPLE WITHOUT ANY LOGICAL REASONING WITHIN A SCRIPT is offensive. It promotes the “grateful orphan” stereotype.THIS is offensive. The IMAGINED RIFT that the FANDOM PROMOTES is disturbing. It is unhealthy and is very frightening.As adoptees, we are just as biological children are. We are allowed to form bonds NATURALLY and REACT NATURALLY to how people treat us. There is no FORCED GRATITUDE INVOLVED.Please never use the word “real mom” ever again. When Henry used the word “real mom” in S1, he was angry, upset, and lashing out. You know, like a child.Now to turn off my “nice”, GO FUCK YOURSELF.Majority of the people using this confession blog are hateful people that can’t grasp the concept of adoption, even when they’re adoptees. It’s disgusting. This confession blog should be shut down for promoting hate. It really should. -- source link
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