eroticcannibal: vicshush:actualmythicalcreature:I taught my kid that swear words (important note: th
eroticcannibal: vicshush:actualmythicalcreature:I taught my kid that swear words (important note: this does not include derogatory names for groups of people) are just words that can carry a social consequence. When you are a child, this consequence isn’t on you, as much as it is on your parents, who are responsible for you. As such, parents usually just ask their kids not to swear. Instead of that, I told him to ask me before he swore so I could explain the potential social consequences and we could make the decision together. So far, he’s asked a handful of times if he could swear at Trump while we watched the news. I found this perfectly acceptable, so he got to say “Ｆｕｃｋ trump”. Once when he dislocated his knee, he asked to swear - I said yea, he yelled “HOLY SHIT OUCH” and I asked if it made him feel better, he said it did. Once in traffic someone almost hit us and he asked to swear, I said yes - he said “That guy is an ASSHOLE” and I was like, yeah. 100% he was. He’s never asked to swear at a time that I felt was inappropriate. I have 0 regrets about this parenting decision. [Image Description, courtesy of @quasarsystem : Tweet by Eternal Samnation (@.portmanteauface) that reads “Parents need to get better at teaching their kids that swear words aren’t actually bad they’re just only appropriate for certain contexts, this 9yo girl at the grocery store just held up a bag of cauliflower rice and said “WHAT THE FUCK IS THIS” and she deserves a fucking Oscar” /End Image Description.] Swearing was treated as FORBIDDEN when I was a kid and guess what I ended up doing a whole lot with no regard for the consequences!My rule for my kid started off as “you can swear if you ask me and I say yes” which they used about twice. As they got older it became “you can swear but consider the circumstances because you will be dealing with any consequences”. So don’t swear at school, at the doctors, at the top of your lungs in a supermarket, around small kids and most importantly, NOT AROUND GRANDMA. It took them years to even start swearing freely because it just wasn’t this appealing forbidden thing, and now they have little issue keeping their mouth shut where they need to (whereas I still struggle to not swear where it isn’t appropriate!) I actually dig this approach. Treating something as this taboo thing never to be mentioned just makes it more alluring to small humans. Treating it as just another thing makes it less appealing and therefore not as enticing -- source link