Is it vanity to reblog your own handy-work? Nah, I’m proud of what I’ve done&
Is it vanity to reblog your own handy-work? Nah, I’m proud of what I’ve done… One of the themes that I keep returning to here is how very different submissives can be to each other, how different their responses are, their emotions, their desires. This, I feel, is a good example. I’ve given a girl her first beating on a number of occasions… I know roughly what to expect. I even have what I now call my ‘beginners flogger’ (both the first flogger I was ever given, and a thing so light and small it works well to introduce someone to what it’s like to be hit without frightening them). I may start with this small flogger, then when they understand what is involved move up to the heavy suede flogger. Generally, as I increase the pace and the heaviness of the hits they will start to become distressed, then start to cry, then ask me to stop. What I do at that point depends on the quality of the girl and what I know of her - stopping might be appropriate, so might pushing her a little further. But I will take her to a point where she knows she’s been properly hit, but I won’t have done any particular damage. So let’s contrast that with the fact that the above was the result of a girl’s first beating. I began with the suede flogger, and went up through the gears, getting heavier and faster. There was some suffering, a little complaining, but basically she was fine. So I changed to the heavy leather flogger, which bites and stings and thuds… but still she remained fine, in position, in control. So I reached for my stick - generally used only for punishment beatings, because it has such a powerful strike. Yet, as I hit her ten, twenty, thirty times, she hardly shed a tear. I was told it was 'all right’. She asked for more. She got more… but in the end I stopped. I had not taken her as far as I wanted her to go emotionally, but physically… I knew she was going to be a mess. And I needed to re-assess. This drive she had to go on, this push for more and more… was it coming from a healthy place? Was this a good desire for more vivid experience, for embracing the pain, for going somewhere in her head where there was little or no suffering… Or was something darker in charge, was there a need for excess that would take her past sensible limits, was pride putting her in danger? Part of me wanted so badly to carry on - to break the bitch and show her that she could never take what I could give. But another part counselled caution, so I withdrew and let her rest. A Dom doesn’t have to go all the way the first time - and knowing exactly where you are and what you’re doing and what is in the girls head is more important than some perfect first story. Different submissives react to pain very differently. But context, mind-set, type of pain, all play a part. By contrast the very next morning I took a belt to her, and when I hit her twice she was in tears and asking me to stop. Different context, different emotion, different pain. Never play with any Dom who says all submissives are the same. Or tries to treat you the same as his last submissive. Approaches, punishments, emotions, words, beatings, humiliations, all must be individually tailored. And a Dom must know *why* he’s doing what he’s doing - what effect he wants - rather than be working through a check-list of things a Dom does. But anyway… beautiful arse. Beautiful bruises. Beautiful girl. I’ve never seen a first beating like it. For which I’m most grateful. -- source link
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