pipsqueekie: lifelockedinacage: A lot of femdom pictures involve women trampling men, men groveling
pipsqueekie: lifelockedinacage: A lot of femdom pictures involve women trampling men, men groveling at feet, and general depictions of scorn and disregard.It’s definitely a titillating scenario for those who love the idea of service through submission, humiliation, degradation, and discipline. The only problem is, what the picture fails to show is ‘so, now what?’Now, in a vivid imagination, people might jump to conclusions of complicated CBT, or licking a toilet bowl, or being whipped. It’s all very exciting - if the end goal is to get your rocks off, or the situation is a scene.However, in the real world of a D/s relationship, kneeling on the floor serves an important purpose - to maintain a visceral sense of the dynamic through a protocol. It’s a symbolic expression. Beyond that, a kneeling man isn’t of much use to a woman.One of the protocols I have enjoyed in an FLR was the requirement to be kneeling with my eyes down inside the front door upon the arrival of my Dominant when she got home. Sometimes I was naked, sometimes I was fully clothed. Sometimes I was collared, sometimes I was in my pyjamas. It was usually dictated by her request or the situation I was in when she arrived home.The reason for kneeling wasn’t for her to give me pleasure, but to ensure that when she walked in the door, she was the center of my attention. Not the tv, not the shower, not my phone or laptop. Not dinner, or the work project on the table. She’d naturally be quite upset if she walked in and I wasn’t there to greet her, ready to serve. Why? Because I made a commitment to put her first, not Law and Order or my emails.She would ring a wireless doorbell in addition to receiving an arrival alert on my phone using my iPhone’s FindMyFriends. I knew upon this alert I had 60 seconds at most to end my phone call, or pause my show, or turn down the stove etc; to be kneeling on the floor in the entryway.If she was walking in the door with a friend, she’d text me. I sometimes asked if one day she wouldn’t text me on purpose. She’d just smile and shrug.When she walked in the door, I was ready to serve her. This is the key intention of the protocol!She’d typically walk up to me with a smile on her face and ask me to look up at her, or hug her, or to do a task. Sometimes if she was busy or bothered, she’d walk right past me, go shower, then come back to me 30 minutes later. Until I was permitted to be released, the understanding was that I’d remain in position.When permitted to move, sometimes she’d ask me to fetch items out of the car. Other times it was to pour a glass of wine and cook dinner because she was starving. On occasion it would be to wash her gym clothes while she showered, or if she knew I had a deadline, she’d release me to go back to my work. If she was in the mood, sometimes she’d lead me to the bed or sofa and have me give her an orgasm. Other times, it would be a non-event and I’d go back to my show or call my friend back.The point is, kneeling at the feet of a woman has to be for her and in her best interests. What’s in it for you, is that it’s for her - because you love her and want her to be empowered and fully self-expressed as the Goddess that she is. Right? If not, I might have found your problem.If the end in mind is a protocol to create focus and provide a clear transition from self into service, then great! If it’s because it’s your fetish and you then expect her to give you goodies, then I dare say you might be duly disappointed. This is a wonderful demonstration of devotion and prioritizing. -- source link