its-a-different-world:joiee-chan:We all have that one person that makes us forget everything we
its-a-different-world: joiee-chan: We all have that one person that makes us forget everything we said we’d never do. The one we keep going back to because even though they aren’t ideal (according to our own standards), they’re essentially perfect for us and in the end, there’s no one else we’d rather be with; well, besides the one we write about in our dream book. You know, the one that’s cute, funny, smart, athletic, perfect, etc. The problem with looking for someone that meets all of our criteria is, they don’t exist and we’re setting ourself up for disappointment. “In his new book, ‘The Science of Happily Ever After: What Really Matters in the Quest for True Love,’ University of Maryland Psychology Professor Ty Tashiro suggests that the secret to finding enduring love is to embrace a willingness to settle for less” (Elite Daily). While this person is not everything you ever wanted they are exactly what you need. Sure they’re a bit more witty than you’d like or they don’t make as much money as you wanted but their wittiness balances your seriousness and they manage the money they do have very well. Don’t be afraid to lower your standards. But don’t lower all of your standards. Especially those of morality and religious beliefs because you still want someone that will treat you right as well as believe the same things you believe. However, love is not about choosing who best fits your standards, it is about choosing who best fits you. It’ll be the one you least expected. It’ll be that one person we would have never given a first chance. That one person we’ll go back to because even though they are nothing like what we imagined, they’re exactly what we need. I guess that’s just how love is. At first I was like “I won’t lower a damn thing”, but as I kept reading I kept agreeing. This is so real and describes my relationship close to a T! Devotional Training: How philosophical. -- source link