emotionally-cuckolded:“There’s a new guy at work hun and it’s really funny the w
emotionally-cuckolded: “There’s a new guy at work hun and it’s really funny the way he seems to be flirting with me. That’s not a problem for you is it? I mean – there’s nothing to it really. Just him being cute.”Then a week later you asked about him. She said:“He’s still flirting with me, so just for fun I’ve started flirting back at him. Like I said – just for fun.”Two weeks later –“Remember that guy who was flirting with me. Well – today he gave me flowers! So sweet. So when he came by my desk I gave him a little kiss. Just as a way of thanking him for being so nice. No big deal really. You’re OK with that aren’t you?”What could you say? Like she said – no big deal. Another week later, you asked again about him.“Yeah, he’s still doing it. Flowers every day. And when he comes by my desk, he gives me a kiss every time too. But I don’t mind. He’s just being nice and friendly. Most times I just give him my cheek to kiss, but yeah – after I get the flowers each day I do turn my head so he can kiss me on the lips and I kiss him back. Just being friendly. Not a problem for you, is it?”You felt a bit uncomfortable about that, but she described it as being nothing significant so you said it was fine with you. Then, about another month later she called you from work:“I’ll be home late tonight, hun. Yeah – I have to work late, sort of. That guy who brings me flowers – it’s his birthday, but he doesn’t know many people so he asked me to go out to dinner with him to celebrate. I didn’t want him to be alone on his birthday, so I said yes. We will be talking about work a bit, and I guess it’s also sort of a date – just to be nice to him because he’s so nice to me. I assume it’s OK with you, eh. Don’t wait up.”She got home quite late – way later than you expected, and while she said the dinner was really nice, you had to ask what she did after dinner. She said she had gone back to his apartment with him, but didn’t say anything else about what they had done. You didn’t ask for more details. Then, just two days later, on Friday, she called again from work:“Hi hun. Yeah – I’ll be late again. No, not work. It’s that guy from work again. He’s invited a few friends over to his place – three couples – and really needs a plus one for him so he’s not the only one not part of a couple, so I agreed to go with him. I might be quite late. In fact, he said these parties can go really late, so I might just stay over at his place after the party. Hope you don’t mind. See you tomorrow.”You barely slept, trying to figure out if there was reason to be troubled. You just weren’t sure. She didn’t get home until about 8 the next morning, and although you couldn’t see clearly what was going on, it looked to you as if she and her friend from work had a really long passionate kiss in the car before she got out. Then, the next Friday, she called again from work:“Looks like that guy from work just assumed that we would be going out to dinner together every Friday, hun. I didn’t want to hurt his feelings – especially after he made reservations for us at a really nice restaurant. So I guess you’ll have dinner alone tonight. Sorry about that sweetie. And then I think we’ll be meeting some friends of his after dinner, so it will probably be another all-nighter for me. See you in the morning.”After that, you wife started going out with him every Friday night – and these dates always lasted all night. It simply became part of her weekly routine, and the one time you said you were bothered by her spending so much time with him, she simply told you that you were being silly and had no reason to be jealous, so you didn’t ask her about it again. Then, about a month later, at the end of another Friday afternoon phone call, she told you that: “One more thing, sweetie. Instead of going out to dinner tonight, my boyfriend is taking me on a bit of a road trip to visit his family. I guess I should have mentioned this earlier. Sorry about that. But yeah – I packed a bag and have it with me. I should be home on Tuesday.”This was the first time she had referred to him with you as her boyfriend. And you were actually upset about the idea of him taking your wife to meet his parents. You couldn’t wait for her to get back to you – you were now determined to try to put a stop to it. But when she returned on Tuesday, what she showed you was that she was now wearing a new engagement ring.“Oh sweetie. I’m so happy” she told you. “He asked me to marry him. I said yes. So – I really need you to give me a divorce and I need you to move out. You’ve been so understanding since the first day I met him. You understand, don’t you? You’ve been such a great husband.” -- source link