Merely submitting is a good start, a declaration of intent, but not nearly enough. First of all, the
Merely submitting is a good start, a declaration of intent, but not nearly enough. First of all, the submission has to proven – to the sub as well as to the Dom. Every command followed, every lesson learned, every cruelty endured makes the bond deeper and more meaningful. Everyone can say “I’ll do whatever you want, Sir!”, but at first that is just a fantasy. It even sounds like a fantasy. But only after you worked and suffered for every memory and experience it becomes a more realistic and now entirely believable “I’ll do whatever I CAN, Sir!”. And second, there is a “right” way to submit. But what that means depends entirely on the person who is in control. It’s not a specific role that is played, but the sum of the little experiences and lessons that shape the way the sub acts and feels. And it is not a conscious effort – quite the opposite. The only conscious effort the sub should make, in my humble opinion, is concentrating entirely on her little world, her Dom, and the task at hand. Everything else is learned simply through repetition and “training”. The real beauty begins when the sub is doing precisely what pleases the Dom without any effort or conscious thought. Then she is truly his. -- source link