presumably-in-no-kuntrol:Quiet time. In every intimate relationship I have experienced there
presumably-in-no-kuntrol: Quiet time. In every intimate relationship I have experienced there were moments when I wanted my time. This alone time was for me to refuel, to sit in quiet without having to tend to another person’s needs. I would fill my 24 hours with sleep, with watching silly movies, with taking long walks in parks where my time was not required, where my service and submission was not expected. In the beginning, regardless of who my Owner was, there was some shock, disbelief if you will, that I was actually asking for “me time”. Each dominant surprised that I would want to be away from him, that I would require such time in order to better serve. Of course there would be great deliberation; however, in the end, each of them granted me my little sanctuary. Self reflection is not an easy process. Looking back I am able to understand that my desire to escape, if only for a day, was to ensure a level of trust was withheld; to provide me with the knowledge that I could survive without them, that I did not need them, that I was strong on my own. I still believe it is okay to do things without your dominant, two people do not make a whole. I am a whole person, I am complete. Needing that time away to reinforce that though, that is where my lesson comes from, what I must learn from no matter how hard it might be. Both in the context of sex and just day to day life, alone time is needed in order to think. That alone time will bring you closer together. My observation is that couples that feel the need to be constantly together are simply masking deeper issues. Within the context of master and slave this is key. You need to give her alone time, corner time, reflection time, whatever you want to call it. Let her be alone in her head. -- source link