mastersslutslave: Saying no There is a tendency to think that as a Submissive we give away our right
mastersslutslave: Saying no There is a tendency to think that as a Submissive we give away our right to say “no” to our Dominant, nothing could be further from the truth. We always, always, always have the right to say no there is however a right way and a wrong way to say no. There are times that my Master will ask me to do a task that simply isn’t possible in that moment, he can’t see me 24/7 he doesn’t know my circumstances every time he requests me to do a task. So how do you say no? Well here is what I say…. “Master may I please request that not happen at this moment? Currently I am unable to complete this task and I don’t like not doing as you ask. May we please reschedule this for a more suitable time?” This allows him to retain the power, while at the same time I am able to express the “no” with a reason that he can understand. It also allows me to show my respect to him and to his request. There are other times when I am asked point blank for my opinion on something, I have a tendency to try and feel the waters and see how my Master feels, what he is thinking, he never gives me his thoughts in these kinds of circumstances, he knows that I would potentially alter my thinking to please him. So when I am asked my opinion I give it, and if the answer is of a negative nature then so be it. That is how it is, a negotiation may pursue and I may alter or even reverse my decision but I always have the ability to say no. D/s is a Partnership a pure and special Partnership, if you take away the rights of your Submissive to say no, you are in fact taking away the essence of who she is and her power. If you take away her power you can’t keep her safe, not like she needs to be. As a Submissive the thought of upsetting my Master in anyway is crushing, that however does not mean that I have to always say yes. To do so in fact undermines the integrity and strength of the relationship we have. I have the right to say NO. Devotional Training: A respectful request to be allowed to say no. -- source link
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