thesweetertouchofdominance: dominantandkinky: instructor144:justme62:brazenbastard:aprilmolano
thesweetertouchofdominance: dominantandkinky: instructor144: justme62: brazenbastard: aprilmolano: onceuponsirsstarrynight: If you aspire to dominance, you must first aspire to personal accountability, you must submit your entire being to leadership. For that is what you are: the leader of your relationship. Choosing to be a leader, above all else, means taking responsibility for everything that goes wrong, and as all great leaders know, deflecting praise back onto those who you lead. Remember those words: leadership, accountability, responsibility, praise, and blame; they are fundamental to the success or failure of your relationship. I am sick and tired of hearing dominant men whine to me about how their submissive woman isn’t good enough. And I’m tired of hearing from submissive women who tell me that their dominant man released them because they weren’t a good enough submissive. Let’s be clear about something: the first rule of leadership is that it is always your fault. Always. When your submissive isn’t meeting your expectations, it’s your fault for not coaching her well enough, for not providing her with the knowledge, insight, or guidance she needed. If there are things she’s not willing to do that you want, it’s because you didn’t do a good enough job communicating needs and limits before hand. Be a man: take responsibility. When things don’t go your way, have the courage to look her, and yourself, in the eye and say, “it’s my fault.” Don’t be the coward who tells them that they failed when the failure is entirely yours. Well said.While I think it takes two to make it work or make it flounder..if it is between two grown, consenting adults.. at some point you have to talk to each other. And not just about sex and kinky fuckery.A relationship, despite the dynamic is ALL about good communication Reblogs mostly for “kinky fuckery” I’m responsible for my life. If I fuck it up, that’s on me. If it goes right, that’s mine too. When time is up, that will be on me to. Yep…I take responsibility for my actions Damn. THIS. It is no small feat to lead a modern day woman. To do it well means you value her opinions, input, preferences, limits and her value as a person, woman and submissive. At some point in this daily lifestyle, you will, as a man, fuck something up. Giving her grace and you owning up make fuck ups simply speed bumps along the course of life and not damaging events which alter the course you both have chosen. Fixing self inflicted damage doesn’t have to be expensive, it just has to be done correctly and thoroughly. Daily maintenance of your chassis is the best way. Think about it. Well said. -- source link