I think this is very true. It turns me on to have my girl do things just because I want them d
I think this is very true. It turns me on to have my girl do things just because I want them done. whyexactly: I’ve been asked a couple times about the ‘meaning’ of the url of this blog and sometimes it’s easier to explain than others. Many posts here involve ideas, acts, or behaviours that are fairly accessible, as far as off-the-beaten-path erotic thinking goes, and other posts are, or at least they feel to me, more nebulous. Sometimes it happens that an idea, act, or behaviour isn’t intrinsically erotic, but is still something one might ask of a partner. This is one of those whyexactly moments. As in: ‘Why, exactly, do I want this of you?’ Why would I ask you, for example, to stand in the corner and not say a word when you’ve been a good girl and done nothing to deserve such treatment? Sure it might be intriguing for a couple minutes, but what happens at the half hour mark? Aren’t I just wasting everyone’s time? Maybe… Or maybe activities which are not intrinsically sexual, but which are demanding in their own way, are important building blocks for a D/s dynamic in a relationship. Maybe asking for something repetitive, strenuous, painful, or dull is not intrinsically sexual until you look at the bigger picture. Then it can be the sexiest thing ever. See, I know that you know you could, two minutes after being stood in the corner, turn around, take a beer from the fridge, and turn on the tv. And I know that you know at the end of the day I can’t actually make you stand there, quiet and still. What I think happens when you decide to stand there and ‘do as you’re told’ is that you acknowledge that doing so is good for both of us. It’s our way of working on that aspect of our relationship, of affirming that we indeed want to work on that aspect of our relationship, and not simply indulge in spanky makeouts (which are awesome and equally important.) That’s not a waste of time at all. That’s sexy as fuck. That’s why, exactly. **** feedback welcomed. -- source link