On this #NationalComingOutDay, as two lifelong lesbians, @yvonnekawamura and I want to come out of t
On this #NationalComingOutDay, as two lifelong lesbians, @yvonnekawamura and I want to come out of the closet with more queer news. ____ About a year ago, we decided to start trying to make a baby. It was challenging, stressful, expensive and alienating almost every step of the way. Choosing a donor and a method was hard enough, but going through our savings to pay for sperm and inseminations was even harder. After trying IUI a couple times and out of money, we were unsure of what to do. ____ At this point, Yvonne’s entire extended family, led by her Uncle, joined together to raise the funds so we could pursue our dream of creating our own family. We were overwhelmed with gratitude that we could now push on with this crazy journey. Since I was 40 at this point, and with 5-11% changes of success per IUI we decided to ramp up to IVF now that we had the resources to pursue this technology. ____ Let me clear, IVF is no f**cking joke. Getting 4 shots a day of hormones, daily blood draws & vaginal ultrasounds, was miserable. Yvonne came with me to every single appointment. She also overcame her fear of needles after I almost fainted giving myself the first shot in the tummy. My stomach became increasingly bruised and swollen and my arms were black and blue too. We felt sad for so many of the women also in IVF hell, who were mostly alone and unsupported during the marathon of daily monitoring. One of the worst moments for me was when I was not allowed to have Yvonne with me during the embryo transfer after having suffered a traumatic egg retrieval. (Story for another day.) But she was there waiting for me, and despite my dismay we were successful. ____ Then came the waiting. 14 days, crossed out on a piece of paper, until we could find out whether I was pregnant. Then on the evening of Pride, the night before our official pregnancy test with the doctor, we bought 2 home pregnancy kits. We didn’t know what to expect. We were both were almost certain it couldn’t possibly have worked. ____ But literally 5 seconds after we put the test sticks down, it became very real. We were pregnant. ____ Happy Coming Out Day Everyone https://www.instagram.com/p/B3fi5m2lHqw/?igshid=eki4ewlfe05p -- source link
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