chadradfem: addictedtocaring:madame-mari:femsolid: And the men who died because the woman defend
chadradfem: addictedtocaring: madame-mari: femsolid: And the men who died because the woman defended herself. It takes so much for me to actually believe when men say they’ve been a victim of domestic abuse and they didnt deserve it. I was with a guy that beat me all the fucking time and I didn’t do jack shit about it until one day I exploded. I literally blacked out and beat the living shit out of a man well over twice the size of me. So what does he do? He calls the cops of course! I never once thought of calling the cops on him all the times he laid a hand on me, or all the times he left bruises, no I wouldn’t do that! I was in jail for a day, was on probation for a year, and I would fucking do it in a heartbeat again. The disgusting thing? He got so much fucking sympathy! Everyone fucking felt bad for him! So I deal with bruises for months which I made sure people wouldn’t see because I just fucking plastered on the foundation, and he walks around at work with a knot on his head and people ask him if hes ok? That’s why even when I see a man that has been attacked, especially by a woman, I don’t feel bad for him because he probably deserved it. You don’t know the full story, don’t act like you do. ^ abuse isn’t just about who beat someone up once. Abuse is about one partner who feels entitled to control another, and who will use abusive tactics, including intimidation and violence, to do so. According to Lundy Bancroft, one of the world’s foremost experts on domestic violence, most men who claim to have been abused are actually abusers themselves who are lying to get allies. This is a perfect example. If a guy claims abuse - ask his partner for her side of the story. Chances are, he was the abuser, not her. If you haven’t read “Why Does He Do That?” yet, pick up a copy. Share it with every woman you know. It could save a life. Or if she’s already out, it could help her heal. That’s what it did for me, and now I have information to help me avoid getting in the same trap in the future. If you look at studies on domestic abuse such as the crime survey of England and Wales, it will always overwhelmingly show that women experience domestic abuse far more than men do, and men are the vast majority of perpetrators. Anyone who denies this is either wilfully ignorant or straight up stupid -- source link