chavisory:queenvproduction:chavisory:agent-hardass:queenvproduction:✏️Lets us use #positive language
chavisory:queenvproduction:chavisory:agent-hardass:queenvproduction:✏️Lets us use #positive language each and every day. Good morning I really like this. It reminds me of CBT and about how we talk to ourselves plays a big part in how we feel. Using more empowering language for yourself should make you feel more empowered/confident/positive then, right?There is still always a place for negativity and that IS okay, negative emotions are completely valid! And I won’t police how you should talk to yourself I just thought I’d share in case y’all wanted to take a look at this sorta stuff. :)Um, okay… but. You would not believe the stories I hear from parents about their disabled kids who are in trouble all the time because they’ve actually been taught not to say “I can’t,” so when they can’t do something, they say “I won’t,” because they’ve been explicitly taught that that’s better. And then their parents think that they’re refusing or being purposely defiant, when really they just don’t know how to explain why they’re having trouble. Their disabilities get treated like behavioral issues, like they really could if they just wanted to, if they weren’t just bad kids.I argued for most of a day, once, with a mother complaining about her autistic daughter’s seeming unwillingness to do dishes or chores. She was insisting that her autistic daughter had no motor, sensory, sequencing, or initialization difficulties that might be interfering with her abilities in this regard. She was just “not doing what she’s supposed to do.”People don’t get support that could actually make them more able to live their lives, because they’re not allowed to admit that there are things they can’t do.The thinking on display in this chart? It is—sometimes—a huge fucking problem. (Not an “opportunity.”)When you can’t do something, you need to be able to say “I can’t.” It’s not actually better just to pretend that you could if you wanted. Some inabilities really aren’t imaginary.It’s not a virtue to confuse people about the difference between can’t and won’t.“I won’t” can be incredibly damaging vocabulary, and “I can’t” can be more empowering than you might believe.chavisoryI had no intentions offending anyone when I posted this. Please accept my apologiesOf course.No one ever has any intention of offending or hurting anyone with this stuff. They get taught that these are right and constructive ways to think.Because the most pervasive prejudice about disability is that it doesn’t really exist.Because the most pervasive prejudice about disability is that it doesn’t really exist. -- source link
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