Every Woman Is A Queen …. really?Carrying on with my last post, I wanted to bring up anot

Every Woman Is A Queen …. really?Carrying on with my last post, I wanted to bring up another elemental / developmental tasks thing. I use tarot therapeutically and I am often interested in how / who people assign themselves a significator. I think there’s room to look at developmental tasks in relation to this as well.Since it seems that most every woman I know identifies with a Queen, it makes sense to really think about what Queens represent. Firstly, all Queens hold a water aspect elementally - they are inward, reflective and receptive, regardless of their suit. Queens also represent a matured energy, and some would say a “maternal” energy as well - not just the “pro maternal” message we have shoveled down our throats - nurturing, tender, giving, caring etc, but also the less valued maternal aspects, such as “disconnection, angry, smothering, ambivalent, disinterested. From a psychology perspective, Queens may represent ourselves as mothers, or “carers” and also represent our mothers, the way we were mothered, and what we pull forward with us, from our childhood experience of our mothers. They also speak to our relationship with “caring for”.There is identification, non identification and over identification with specific cards, suits, elements and roles. For instance, I mentioned my {possible over} identification with the Queen of swords - when I say this I am not only referring to the thought process identified with the Suit of Swords, but also the water element that is intrinsic to all Queens.  This is an internalized, receptive attunement and also shows the essential tasks of developing the Sword and Cups as elements - how does the Queen of Swords manage the tensions between thought and feeling, unspoken versus spoken needs, active versus receptive principles? What is it about the Queen of Swords I identify with? Why do I relate to her? What is it about her I want to emulate?I also spoke about my under identification with the Queen of Pentacles and her Earthy/Watery elements. A non identification or under identification, shows just as many developmental tasks. What is it about the Queen of Pentacles that turns me off? What don’t I like about her? What about her don’t I relate to, or don’t want to be like?Also, non identification with a role, is very revealing as well. Why do you only want to be a Queen? What makes Queen energy more desirable that say Page energy, or King energy? What qualities as matured women are we most attuned with? How does this fit with cultural, social and familial standards? What does it mean to be a “good” woman? A “good” Queen?How does tarot speak to age? Maiden, Mother, {mature woman}, Crone. How long can a Queen stay a Queen, before her tasks and role must evolve and transcend? How do you read a Queen of Swords for a 21 year old? A 35 year old? A 55 year old, a 70 year old?We can look at our own mothers, sisters and grandmothers. If we were to assign them a Queen Card, which would they be? Did they actualize the best of their suit, the best of their element?We can also look at the female friends we chose. Which Queen most represents them? What is it about their suit and elemental proficiency attracts us? Are they a good fit for our Queen? Would the Queen of Swords want to be friends with the Queen of Pentacles? Or the Queen of Wands / Cups? Why or why not? Are we friends with Queens? Maybe we surround ourselves with Pages, or Kings, or Knights?Lastly, I think it’s important that we don’t gender trip into a significator or an over identification with a card. There are women who are far more aligned and attuned, for instance, with King energy. There are also women who align strongly with pages and knights. I haven’t seen any women for instance, tagging themselves as the Knight or King of whatever, even tho, they are very active, dynamic, forceful and courageous in the way they move through the world.I sometimes imagine what it might have been like to grow up in a household with strong, well actualized older women, maybe mom, but aunties and grandmothers and who ever else happened to be around. Maybe they were Queens, but maybe they were other roles as well, kings, pages, knights, but all very attuned. The question is, what would it be like to be able to learn from all the suits and elements, from women who are strongly aspected and identified within their roles and suits? We take away learning from all of the people cards, and in this instance, all of the Queens. If we approach them as friends, or colleagues, the question isn’t which is the “best” or which am I – but more, how can I learn from everyone and best actualize these qualities and learning in myself and my life?  pagan-psych-disaster said: What deck is this? Oops, it’s the Steampunk tarot -- source link

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