flr-house-husband-blog: Real Life Female Led Relationship (FLR) + AdditionsAdditions I will cover th
flr-house-husband-blog: Real Life Female Led Relationship (FLR) + AdditionsAdditions I will cover that we have are:1.) Routine2.) Domestic Discipline 3.) Power Exchange (Long Term Chastity, Screen Time, Permission for Free Time / Games / Schedule / Dress&Attire)4.) Light Sissification / Strapon Training5.) Edging / Ruined Orgasms6.) Control / Rules / Expectation ManagementIn our FLR my routine is this:For me my day look like this:-wake up around 4:30am-gym / personal trainer 5:00-6:00am-gym shooting basketball 6:00-6:30am-send good morning message to goddess-home, goddess unlocks me, shower, possibly edged, relock, start chores go to work by 7:30am-home by 4:30pm -complete daily / weekly chores (ask permission to get dressed in a cleaning outfit)-message goddess when complete if free time is wanted by me-have free time or complete a dynamically assigned task-make / have dinner -cuddle on the couch together or playtime (sex/worship goddess/massage goddess/edge/etc)Domestic Discipline:at some point goddess will administer punishments for shortfalls of the day or week. This for me is mainly standing in the corner naked, spankings, or being locked in a humblr—all things I dislike. Power Exchange:-Chastity denial is a separate part of our life and over time the amount of times I’m allowed to come have a full orgasm each month has generally reduced and been replaced with ruined. -Even before FLR she told me no porn and no masterbating as she wanted all my cum to herself. -Chastity was the easiest way to make sure there we’re any slip ups and makes me horny as hell. Schedule and Routine: -I for the most part advice options and things to do on the weekend-Outside of my normal chores and take I have to ask permission for anything. -This really helps me stay on schedule and meet her expectations much better than a giant list of rules neither of us can remember. Rules:1.) Be locked Daily2.) Workout M-F3.) Send Good Morning Message4.) Complete Daily Chores / Tasks5.) Ensure her wants or needs are met before asking for any screen time. 6.) Greet at Door when she arrives7.) Open her doors (car/eating out/etc)8.) Undivided attention when in her presence. No phone, TV, etc unless she wants it. 9.) Be responsive when apart. 5 mins to reply to messages, unless known why it may take longer prior (meeting, driving, etc)10.) If allowed to play games, “dinger” will be on, and I have to re-ask each hour to continue. I thrive with having to ask permission to do anything not already allowed via chores/tasks/free time rules. This allows for her to have flexibility and set different permissions and tasks quickly and easily based on my performance, feedback and how she wants the day to go later on. For me, this amount of control and for us leaves zero room for misunderstandings and helps me stay out of trouble. Personally I prefer asking for permission to drink soda, play games, etc. it helps me stay on track for my goals her or I have agreed to. Sissification / Strapon Training:-Being humiliated is one of my kinks outside FLR-This has evolved a bit. Sexually I like having to dress up and be pounded. -Shopping or trying on is humiliation that I enjoy the thrill of. -We still do this sometimes when she sees fit, but also I have to ask permission to do chores in sissy outfits. -This is where being her house husband really evolved and I became very fast and completing chores to be allowed to change back into normal clothes. -I do like the submissiveness from it and her teasing about how cute I look and I’m throughly scared to be caught by our yard help or one of our friends. -When working from home I’m sometimes not allowed to change after my cleaning is done or if something for work comes up midway through my chores. I just love she is in control and says no sometimes when I want out. Strapon training came from being locked all the time and needed and wanting to be milked to release some hall pressure. Usually she has me edge with a dildo locked and sometimes unlocked. It’s rare but my favorite is when she bends me over and takes me from behind. I drip and leak so much more than doing it myself with a dildo. Idk, just the thought of it to me is hott, and when she grabs my hips or smacks my ass, tells me to say I like taking her cock it’s just a whole new level of submission and kink for me. Edging / Ruined Orgasms:-This is an our thing, for her she wants me denied and my balls full. It makes me horny and better in bed during intercourse. She always comes first and I can ask to or ask to be denied (my choice). -For me I’m so happy to be allowed to either edge or be allowed to have a ruined orgasm as I know without a doubt 95% of the time a full orgasm will not be allowed. -I will admit, Chastity and being denied can have positive effects on attitude, but for us it’s not a punishment because after a full orgasm I used to act up more and that frustrated her. That’s where other ways were found to address them and are now the staple for addressing issues since it’s effective 24/7 and anytime she needs it. For Real Life FLR and for different couples, with different levels of FLR I’d say the true staple is addressing the following:ExpectationsRules ControlPunishmentsExpectations give both parties a clear foundation to build upon and add to once the foundation is solid. Rules, should be short and simple, to reinforce expectationsControl is a tool that not everyone needs to use, but for me if she says jump I don’t ask how high I just jump. She will tell me how many and how high and correct it if I do it wrong. Punishments, what works for one won’t work for all. This is really her realm and trying different things. For me, I have to write lines over and over when I disobey a known rule or expectations. That’s usually assigned along with a 250 or 500 word essay on respect/serving/Etc. Usually in addition I have to update our shared app with a physical punishment like spankings or standing in the corner, which she texts me to add and I have to think about while writing and while waiting to have them administered when she sees fit. Once a punishment is used to address a shortfall she may discuss it with me, but from there both parties move on. Sometimes for me that includes moving on with additional temporary or permanent rules or tasks around the event or losing privileges or being grounded. Most notable for me is after a few issues on accident Goddess added for my free time (when allowed) for games that 1.) I have to ask permission 2.) re-ask each hour. Those are permanent. For that week where these were added I also had to wear panties, drink only water, and be plugged while playing. Last- If I didn’t/don’t get a response to the extension games are back to off limits. I retask myself to cleaning when this happens when she is out of the house. If she is home I pamper her or cuddle her and make sure all her needs and wants are met by asking. What I would never do is go and bug her about playing. It’s not a rule, it’s just common sense and knowing that if she wanted me playing games she would tell or allow me. Lastly, this is where the 5 mins to respond to any text came from, because I was playing online 6-7 min matches and would miss a message or immediate task she wanted complete. Now if that happens I’ll turn off the game and go do what she instructs. She doesn’t care about my ranking like I do, and I don’t care about my rankings either because I won’t have any if I’m not allowed to play at all. To close, while yes FLR can have kink dynamics and BDSM related topics intertwined I want others to know it’s best kept separate if you’re just starting out. For us, at the end of each week is my time to talk about what I think is going well, what I had trouble with and why, and being up anything I’m curious about or would like to ask to try. For me- It’s takes time and practice to accept i don’t get way most of the time and she has final say. But from that comes comfort of knowing if / when she wants to she will. Wow! Awesome lifestyle post! -- source link