Felt somewhat coerced into cosmetic surgery, don’t know what to do (photo in comment)Throwaway
Felt somewhat coerced into cosmetic surgery, don’t know what to do (photo in comment)Throwaway account… Hi all, needing some advice (comfort?) 4 months ago, I had breast augmentation surgery. I had been planning for a year, thought I did the research, thought I was ready.I’m very petite - 5'1", about 100 pounds, wore a 32C bra. However, I have a bit of a big booty, so I always wanted the boobs to match, and my husband was all for it (ha!).When I began the consultation, I brought in photos of girls I liked, as well as girls my husband thought had great boobs as well (THOSE were awkward conversations). He always seemed to want bigger than me, but only by a little it seemed.My Doctor took a lot of measurements and made a recommendation of 500-650cc high profile implants, and gave me a “sizer kit” to test out sizes. This is where things start to go awry.I liked the bigger sizes from the kit and thought they looked…“impressive”, lol, but my husband seemed disappointed. He tried not to show it, but after 12 years of marriage I can tell. He eventually admitted that he thought they would be larger. Now, please don’t judge, but it was really important to me that my husband was happy with the change (I know, I know, “it’s my body”, only I can decide, etc.). But because I wanted him happy, I agreed to pick up the next size up sizer kit from my doctor, which went from 650-800cc simulation. When I tried them on, my husband was finally excited. He IMMEDIATELY began lobbying for the 800cc version. I felt it was too large, but it wasn’t THAT bad, so after a month of deliberation, I went back to the doctor to tell him my decision and set a date.Bad news - the nurse had given me the kit on a day the doc was out, and when he heard what I had tried and what I decided, he informed me that he didn’t think I would be able to go to an implant that size :( He said I had enough tissue (because I was a C cup before) but my “Base Width” measurement was not wide enough for the 800cc implant.Well this made me both sad an really mad - all this deliberation, prayer and thinking about it, and now I can’t have it. Also, I was worried that my husband would be disappointed as well. I told the Doc my thoughts, and he said he would take some more measurements. After measuring again and looking on his computer, he said that he MIGHT could place 800cc’s, but it would have to be one of the newer “ultra High Profile” implants, as they have much more projection and much narrower at the base than the standard 800cc implants.Long story shortened - he agreed to try it, we scheduled and I had the surgery, and here I am with 800cc UHP implants 4 months later.The reason I’m writing? THEY STICK OUT WAAAAAY TOO FAR! I remember waking up from surgery and finally looking down and thinking, wow, I’ve really screwed up. Before I left after recovery, the doc stepped in and I told him, AND my husband that i was scared they had too much projection (imagine groggy, post anaesthesia/pain meds speech, lol). My doc then, and at my follow up a day leter said not to worry - they would “drop” and round out more as my skin relaxed, and he was sure I would feel better about them then.Well, its four months later, and they HAVEN’T! My husband LOVES them, but I’m starting to freak out. I feel like everybody stares, men ogle, and my proportions are freakish :( I can’t fiind a bra, I’m harboring anger towards my husband… HELP!For those that have had surgery, WILL they ever ‘relax"??Do they look freakish to YOU? I can’t seem to get past them.What should I say to my husband?? Thanks for any help you give. Heres a link to a photo (non-nude) https://www.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/comments/3jmnt0/felt_somewhat_coerced_into_cosmetic_surgery_dont/ -- source link