yinx1: the-06: wuh2k: thisiseverydayracism:honeybeehusky:titenoute:hiddlesherethereeverywhere:
yinx1: the-06: wuh2k: thisiseverydayracism: honeybeehusky: titenoute: hiddlesherethereeverywhere: pr1nceshawn: Tips That Can Save Your Kid’s Life. THIS IS IMPORTANT When I was a child, from the time I was about four and could understand things, my mom told me and my brother that we should have a secret word. That way, if we were ever in trouble or felt unsafe and we didn’t want the people around us to know we needed her to come get us, we could let her know. So she let us pick the word and my brother and I chose the phrase “peanut butter cups.” (I’m happy to share the phrase now since both my brother and I are adults now). I used the phrase twice in my life. Once, I was at a friends house when I eight years old. Her dad got really drunk and was throwing things against the wall. I was really scared and I didn’t want to draw attention to myself on the phone when I called my mom to come get me because I didn’t know if he would get more violent if I asked her to come get me. So I called her and was calm and after a couple minutes I asked “Hey mommy, did you get me those peanut butter cups from the store?” And she said “I’ll be right there.” And she came and got me within minutes. Second, I was a teenager spending the night at a friends house. Her brother and dad were drinking and they started talking about things that made me uncomfortable - ie: what they liked to do to women. My friend didn’t seem perturbed and said that was normal for them and that I shouldn’t worry. But I was worried because they were really drunk and I was 15 and the only ‘woman’ around that wasn’t related to them. I went in my friends room, told her I needed to call my mom and say goodnight. Before I hung up with her I asked “Next time we go to the store, can we get some peanut butters cups? I’ve been craving them.” And she came and got me, just like that. Two incidents, one as a young child, one years later as a teen. Don’t discredit this stuff, it fucking works. My brother used it a few times too. Let your child pick the word and no never, ever, ever, ever get mad at them for using it no matter what it is. DO NOT SCROLL PAST THAT. Off topic, but very important! I was taught to yell “this is not my mom/dad.” A young kid freaking out in public is likely to be ignored out of embarrassment, but a kid telling you right out that they don’t know who is messing with them? That will turn heads. SIGNAL BOOST 90% of all child molesters are members of the family, close family friends, or an adult in a trusted position of authority. All of this is important but one more thing: Never instil an unwavering “respect for their elders” in your child, and never chastise them for “tattling” on or feeling uncomfortable around an older relative/family friend/teacher .etc. Also, knock it off with openly displaying your children’s names on clothing, backpacks, and so on. We get a lot of families at work and I see this all the time. Kids respond more readily when called by name, in turn allowing adults to pretend they know them and giving them a false sense of security. Just my two cents. The car decals with the family in stick figures, or the name and number your kids play on a team. Y’all need to stop doing stupid stuff that puts your kids in danger. Also backpacks now have a tag inside for you to put your child’s name if you are so worried about a mixup. Always trust your child if they don’t want to go to a certain persons house no matter how long you have known them. And NEVER force a child to hug/sit with/touch an adult no matter if it’s family or not. -- source link