themacklemorebrothers: damnit-kid: themacklemorebrothers:In honor of Janelle Monáe coming o
themacklemorebrothers: damnit-kid: themacklemorebrothers: In honor of Janelle Monáe coming out I put together a lil graphic about bi & pan identities! This is based on my own experiences within the community as someone who uses both terms. It of course does not cover everything! Image description under the cut. Keep reading Coming back to this post because the comments are a mess. Here is what I know: – the definition of bi meaning 2+ has been the accepted definition of bi since before the internet. This is not a new definition. If you are just now learning of this definition and find that your understanding had been wrong up until this point well… you were misinformed. Thats it. The world doesnt end just because you learned something new. No one is judging you now. Let it go. – if you identify as bisexual but you feel your orientation falls more along the pansexual definition you do not have to change the way you identify. If the bisexual label is a comfortable fit and feels right, then you should absolutely use it. What you should not do is police the label definitions or who can and cannot identify as what. – the above is true in reverse. Your attraction to different genders does not need to be equal in all ways at all times. – yes there are more than 2 genders. If you dont think there are? Science and psychology disagree with you. You are wrong. Educate yourself, or just accept that you dont know something and just decide not to be an asshole about it. Both are good options. Anything else makes you a shit person, really. – “sexual traits” are a joke and mean nothing in the grand science of genetics. Genitals are not male or female or even necessarily the result of your chromosomes. If youd like to know more use google. My point is that you stop feeling entitled to what is or isnt inside someones pants. A trans woman has female parts in her pants because she is a woman and those parts are hers. Full stop. This goes for anyone who is not cis-gendered. – therefore any argument along the lines of “okay, but we are talking “sex” not “gender”…“ is inherently transphobic and will be taken out with the rest of the trash. – and if all orientations are based on gender then that there is another reason why “hearts, not parts” isnt the best description. What people are asking you to do is consider the words that you are using to describe a feeling and use ones that are less harmful and potentially more accurate. – also be careful when saying “regardless of gender”. Those words are good, but saying or implying “gender doesnt matter” is not good. To some people, their gender matters a lot, and it isnt your place to say whether their gender is or isnt important. – no, you do not have to be attracted to nonbinary people. The definition of bi is two “OR” more. If “men” and “women” are your two, that’s fine, however that doesn’t give you a pass to be exorsexist. – at the end of the day you are allowed to use the term that is right for you. The point of the infographic is that these words do have two different meaning and, while they can over lap, are not interchangeable. Language evolved to describe our experience of the world. Language never STOPS evolving. We have a million different words that describe the way we laugh, it follows that we should have a million different words to describe the way we love. THANK YOU!! I have been too exhausted to fully address many of the criticisms that have come up in response to this post and you did such a great job. I will add that I have somewhat changed my mind on the “men and women” definition and would put it under “proceed with caution” instead. if you aren’t denying that nonbinary people exist, or saying this is the definition for ALL bi people, and you just generally aren’t attracted to nb people then I think that’s okay. You’re definitely not obligated to be attracted to us or include us in your personal label. If you’re screaming at me that there’s only two genders then I’m not gonna like you though.Also my intention with this was not to be preachy or prescriptive or to police people’s identities. I wanted to create a simple guide to help people understand how the terms are used most often, in my experience within the community, and to think about the implications of some of the phrasing we use. There will of course always be exceptions and nuances, but I could not include everything.❤️❤️❤️ -- source link