bestowmysubmissiveart: Reflections and Thoughts from an Abstract S/submissivePersonal growth is a
bestowmysubmissiveart: Reflections and Thoughts from an Abstract S/submissive Personal growth is a big part of who I am, I value the moments when self reflection leads to the understanding of myself, which in turn, helps me gain insight in becoming a better me. Regardless of whether one is male, female, Dominant or submissive, everyone possesses some combination of both feminine and masculine characteristics, or energy. It has nothing to do with your sexual preference, your physical appearance, or preferred wardrobe. They are the characteristics of our inner self that make up who we are and how we portray ourselves to those around us, and how we interact with the world. I am a strong, in control, self confident, sometimes over the top, always planning, always thinking, risk taking, self reliant, quick with a clever comeback, talkative, passionate in my beliefs, orderly, often delegating, submissive female. *deep breath* Trust me, it’s exhausting!! Those would be my masculine traits. At the same time, I have the other side of me that is serving, gentle, playful, loving, attentive, sensitive, understanding, compassionate and almost giving to a fault. These would be considered my feminine traits and what makes up who I am in my core. Essentially, I am an extremely submissive female, with a very high masculine energy. Yes, I am a girlie girl, enjoy time with my girlfriends, wear cute clothes, have my nails painted pink, can walk in heels, and obsessed about maintaining my physical self. Any sight of a grey hair has me in panic mode, running to the nearest salon. As stated, it has nothing to do with ones physical appearance, just to make that clear. Again, whether you are a dominant or submissive, male or female…. these masculine and feminine energies exist in all of us, just at different levels. A strong dominate male should not only posses strong masculine traits, but also have some feminine traits, as well; ie sensitivity, loving, caring, compassionate and so on.These traits are required regardless of how alpha you are. With that being said, a submissive should also posses masculine traits which are essential in day to day life, i.e. succeeding in business, running a household, or confronting the jackass that just cut you off on I-95 (okay, maybe not that.) Seriously though, the combination of both masculine and feminine energy make up all of us, and who we are as people. Knowing how to gauge those characteristics and when to use them, is the tricky part… at least for me. Keep in mind, no one can learn to be submissive, they just are, but they can improve on it… The same goes for being Dominant. One just is. However, all of us can work toward mastering at becoming better selves.This submissive is learning under supervision of her therapist / life coach to soften the sometimes overwhelming way she portrays herself, so to allow allow her feminine energy to emerge. Especially if she is one who has had to keep her submissive core buried for a lifetime. Here are some exercises asked of me to work on four times daily. First and foremost, and not surprising he stressed this part from me. Don’t speak. If I must speak, I can only speak of my needs and my feelings. Learn to shut my mind off. No thinking, planning, no pushing, controlling or dominating. I must work on feeling my body sensations and my breathing and to be in my senses; see, smell, touch, taste, hear. In order to bring out my inner feminine; take bubble baths, yoga, involve myself in my art, cry, laugh, be messy, emotional, wild, unpredictable, and impractical. Gift those around me with my inner feminine radiance, which is strong, but has been contained due to a lifetime of me having no other choice but to steer the ship. Perhaps this will help some of you. Gained insight and knowledge should be shared, especially when it may be influential to those in helping them to lead the most fulfilling life they can. It’s what we all want, and anyone that says that there isn’t room for self improvement, certainly has a lot to learn. My very best to all of you in your quest to become a better you. In doing so, I can assure you that you will be a better part of something more profound. That deep O/oneness with another that we all seek. xo’ Bestowmysubmissiveart.tumblr.com -- source link