Requests and denials do funny things to the brain. They create obstacles that have no right to exist
Requests and denials do funny things to the brain. They create obstacles that have no right to exist, and create importance where there really shouldn’t be any. I’m not complaining in the slightest; if I wasn’t able to conjure meaning where there might be none, this Tumblr might not exist. But let me explain. When I tell you to open your legs, that’s a command for something that, by all rights, I wouldn’t be surprised at seeing you do. You’re turned on, you’re needy, and you want to be able to touch, to be touched. By necessity, you need to open your legs. But now that I’m telling you to do it, it becomes a Thing. With a capital T. So you shake your head, you protest, you clamp your legs shut as if they’ve just been rebranded as Fort Knox for modern times, and you resist. By the same token, were I to tell you you couldn’t open your legs, there’s suddenly nothing on earth you’d rather be doing than flinging them wide, showing yourself off for all the world to see. It’s not as simple as merely reverse psychology, I don’t think. I think it’s more to do with how something changes merely by being observed, how drawing attention to something innocuous strips it of that innocuousness, suddenly making it conspicuous and important. So I ask you to spread your legs, you refuse, and I take out the spreader bar. And suddenly that spreader bar has a nice little psychological effect to go along with it. -- source link
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