It’s easy to think that Dominance is about large, grandiose decisions that shake the submi
It’s easy to think that Dominance is about large, grandiose decisions that shake the submissive to their very core. About intricate, almost grotesque plans that form a spider’s web in our minds, each part delicately chosen and then acted upon as that eventuality arises. It’s easy to think that because, by and large, it’s the impression put forward. The illusion of control. In reality, I face a thousand decisions a minute, each one requiring a quick decision but a measured response. That contradiction, the tension in figuring out what to do after I’ve had the chance to decide to do it, is the thrill of Dominance. It’s about becoming a creature of reaction almost as much as this beautiful thing beneath you that you’re acting upon. My gut has become my greatest ally. Or, to put it a little more eloquently, my intuition is my most powerful asset. Whether to grab your hand and pin it behind your shoulderblade, or to take a good grip of your hair and pull your head back? Whether to spank the left cheek or the right cheek. In my experience, the best Dominants are the empaths, the ones that can put themselves, for that split second, in the shoes of the submissive and make their judgement based on which will have the most impact. There’s going to be a level of priority involved, naturally, where the Dominant places their desires first, but, conveniently, I’ve often found my desires to align rather perfectly with whatever has the greatest effect on the submissive. So, a thousand decisions, each one its own earthquake, rippling the ground from underneath your feet, until you’re staggering and broken. The trick is figuring out where to start those quakes, and which ones you can afford to make an educated guess on. I think I’ve got it more right than wrong, so far. -- source link
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