yayfeminism:closet-keys:theresagooseinthemainframe:dakotaaaa:some thoughts on self objectification H
yayfeminism:closet-keys:theresagooseinthemainframe:dakotaaaa:some thoughts on self objectification Holy mother of hell this is a huge reason why lesbians can go years just not figuring out that they aren’t attracted to men. when your whole understanding of attraction is “objectifying yourself to the point that you understand intimacy as a performance to be the perfect sexual object for a man” then the question of who and what you desire isn’t even being asked- let alone answered. This is pretty common. Women’s sexual fantasies (and gay men’s) are often about being an object of desire, rather than desiring someone else.Research from the sexology journal, ‘Archives of Sexual Behavior’ found:‘direct evidence that object of desire themes are linked more to women’s sexuality than they are to men’s.’‘If a woman does perceive that she is an object of desire within her relationship, then her level of sexual desire and sexual activity may be fairly high. If, on the other hand, she does not feel a sense of her own desirability or being an object of desire, she may have very little sexual desire.’ [source]Heterosexual men also included themselves as objects of desire in their fantasies, but to a lesser degree and it was not the key theme. -- source link