so-much-to-play-with: Prompt 24:Subs get to go to sub space and enjoy the freedom of relinquishing a
so-much-to-play-with: Prompt 24:Subs get to go to sub space and enjoy the freedom of relinquishing all control. Does it ever bother you (as a Dominant) that you always have to stay in control?Well, first, I don’t think I must always stay in control. The whole purpose of the relationship we built with my Little One is to trust each other enough to be honest all the time. Once it’s the case, it signifies we’re also able to say when we can’t make it, when we need to take a break or when we need help. Having a d/s relationship, for me, doesn’t imply that a submissive will always surrender or a dominant remains in charge of everything. It’s a matter of needs, wants and abilities.From there, when we both agree that me being in control is the most beneficial decision, then no, it has never bothered me. Being in control is something I seek on my day to day life, as a person. I hate uncertainty. I process (way too much) everything I think and do, to avoid a loss of control. Transposed into our relationship, this means that, as soon as my Little One yields power to me, my playfield expends. More control, more depth, implies more freedom to me.When entering a heavy session with my Little One, knowing that I’ll have all the power, the decisions, even her life in my hands brings me into such a state… I see everything, hear everything… And decide. The thrill then is incredible. I don’t know what others seek into d/s, but for me, the two most important aspects are, one, that I can alleviate concerns and stress off of my Little One’s shoulders, but also, two, that I now have a better grasp on my own life, thanks to her.-Twin post to come on bdsmlr. -- source link