No matter how much of a ‘true’ submissive or dominant we are, or how much those

No matter how much of a ‘true’ submissive or dominant we are, or how much those things are part of our very being, in our natures, it’s always going to be a persona that we adopt. Because the submissive and the dominant are sexual beings, characters fit for the bedroom, and for closed doors, but not something that can operate in the wider world. You’d be shunned as a pervert, and perhaps rightly so; if you treated every girl you came across like you treat her, there’s going to be more than one harassment lawsuit headed your way.  But you can hide behind a persona. It’s not quite who you are, to the degree that there’s a divorce there, between you and them, the ones you are in the bedroom. The ones that let you let go, that you can dress up and dress down, cover in makeup and pull the chord, watch them go.  What they don’t tell you is that personas tend to create a life of their own. You can find yourself saying things you didn’t mean to say, doing things you didn’t intend to do. It can get away from you, if you’re not careful, and before long you’ve got a Tyler Durden on your shoulder egging you into dangerous acts of sadism, urging you to pick up the crop instead of the flogger, because what the hell, it’ll be something different.  Luckily he’s only as strong as you make him, and while I can use him as a shield when I need to, make him deflect my own qualms to do the things I want to do, that you want me to do, I keep him chained in the basement where all he can do is the things that I want him to do. I won’t surrender, and I hope you won’t, either, except to me. Leave your psyche unfractured, if you will, it’s pretty whole.  -- source link

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