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countryboydom: foxyshadow: tmarietime: scrumptiouslydistinguishedlady: am-i-your-slut: onceuponsirsstarrynight: “What convinces is conviction. Believe in the argument you’re advancing. If you don’t you’re as good as dead. The other person will sense that something isn’t there, and no chain of reasoning, no matter how logical or elegant or brilliant, will win your case for you.” ~Lyndon Johnson One of the great challenges that I faced in becoming a dominant man was to develop the courage of my convictions. When you are young or uneducated, you rely on bluster. You speak your mind forcefully, even though it is all too often uneducated. I struggled to understand that this was not power, it was arrogance, and people never truly follow arrogance. They are, at best, temporarily mislead by it. To manifest power, I had to develop quiet conviction, and that could only happen as I developed in knowledge. For it is in knowledge that we can begin to gain wisdom through practical application. As you begin to gain wisdom and knowledge, you can begin to manifest strength. The great contradiction, and the paramount challenge of developing wisdom and accumulating strength however, lies in admitting that you have none. This fundamental fact is what kills more aspiring dominant men than any other. For the man emotionally geared toward dominance, the bluster which he mistakes for strength, can blow him off course, and lead him afoul of those around him faster than anything else. Knowledge and wisdom, as any learn’d man can tell you, are gained through humility. The wisest amongst us are also usually the most humble. They are the ones who spend their time asking thoughtful questions of their elders, and listening carefully to the answers. They quietly seek to hear before being heard, and they seek knowledge and carefully apply what they’ve learned, testing the results as they go. They become strong by constantly admitting their weakness, and seeking to remedy them. You’ll frequently see me extol in my writings here the virtue of knowledge, and the importance of its pursuit. For the aspiring dominant man, your knowledge is your strength. Having taken the time to do your research provides you with the wisdom to guide a submissive woman, and with that wisdom comes the conviction to stand your ground when she pushes back. Dominant/submissive relationships are typically built initially on the allure of sexual attraction and a degree of respect, but true power exchange doesn’t begin until power is tested, and true power can’t exist until that wisdom passes it’s tests. Your submissive woman will want to push you, to test you, to see that you are indeed as wise as you claim to be, she will want to see that you have the strength to weather her challenges, and stand the storm. She will measure you against how you treat her at her best, and at her worst. She will weight you against the other men in your circle, for she will want to know that she is being guided by the best. Her conviction in you will rise as a direct result of your conviction in yourself - a quiet conviction developed through your commitment to constant self improvement. True conviction can exist only in the presence of true wisdom. And true wisdom can exist only in the presence of true humility. It is the humble man who admits his weaknesses and devotes his being to strengthening them, to developing his wisdom. Once a man can be humble, only then can he become wise. Once he becomes wise, he can develop true conviction. True conviction does not need to yell, it does not need to hide behind anger. True conviction is the quiet force of the man who has trained his being so aggressively that he can assert his supremacy so gently, that his whisper or a careful glance can bring his submissive in line. His strength gives her strength, it calms her storm, and reminds her of the safety she has in his guidance. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ Yesssss…these words here, “His strength, gives her strength, it calms her storm, and reminds her of the safety she has in his guidance,” have resounding effect with me. Putting aside the sexual side of D/s, it’s the beauty in the dynamics that get me every time. *SDL* This sounds very familiar. I no longer have to speak loudly, but when I do speak, my point is made and we’re able to move forward. And as with every thing. Patience it will not happen overnight -- source link