Perfectionism, avoiding conflict, editing the way we express and what we say — in an effort to
Perfectionism, avoiding conflict, editing the way we express and what we say — in an effort to appease others or manipulate interactions — are trauma responses. . . This is how we seek control. Control leads us to believe that we might be able to influence an interpersonal outcome by sacrificing integrity, boundaries, honesty, and our own essence. . . The fear of saying too much or too little was bred by people who would have been impossible to please either way. . . How are you unlearning this? . . I’m a big believer in enduring discomfort + fear in healthy relationships with safe people as a means of shedding trauma and learning a new way of being in the world. Remembering our integrity is a practice that never ends . . Tag someone who is a “sweet spot” for you xx (at Ottawa, Ontario) https://www.instagram.com/p/B1g28jMg6MW/?igshid=1rh6ujjwih1bu -- source link