omega-ish: subspaceomega: amysubmits: I get advocating for communication of course but this feels di
omega-ish: subspaceomega: amysubmits: I get advocating for communication of course but this feels dismissive of the reality that the reason why communication is ‘that hard’ for so many is often things like emotional abuse or other trauma. This person has clearly never spent their entire life getting gaslighted by friends, family, and significant others.If I tell you I don’t like you, or I don’t want to talk to you, or that I’m upset with you, or that you’re wrong, or that I don’t agree with you, in my mind I’m setting myself up as a target for your response — which life experience has taught me will probably be anger. Life experience has also taught me that being on the receiving end of anger will put me in immediate physical danger.I don’t say these things largely out of a trauma response in relation to self-preservation. And to be honest, a lot of people say things like this off the cuff, but when the moment comes they let their egos talk and suddenly they’re not comfortable with people expressing these feelings after all. They get defensive and lash out because they don’t want to take the responsibility of owning the conversation, and that’s happening a lot in the world these days. And let me tell you: maturity is too letting go because it isn’t worth it, and sometimes just distancing. -- source link
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