littlegirldomme: What is bdsm? BDSM stands for bondage/discipline dominance/submission sadism/m
littlegirldomme: What is bdsm? BDSM stands for bondage/discipline dominance/submission sadism/masochismSo what exactly is bondage?Bondage 101Rope Bondage *highly recommend Bondage for BeginnersShow Some RestraintIntro to BondageOkay so what is discipline?slave training 101presentingtraining your sub - dom povtraining your sub - sub povdiscipline guidedeveloping an effective programdiscipline v. punishmentproperly discipline a subWhat’s a dom?dominantso you want to be a domhow to be a doma beginner’s guidean absolute beginner’s guidedominance 101Then what’s a sub?how to be submissiveintro to submissionintroduction to be a subbeing submissivebeing sexually submissive does not mean im weakBut i feel i am both…no worries! that means you are a switch. what is a switch now? a switch is someone who enjoys being both dominant and submissive in a dom/sub dynamic. They are just as common as being dominant or submissive. so no worriesI am a male but i want to submit to someone. is that weird? gosh no! most articles use the females as the submissive and the male as the dominant which is completely wrong. there are equal amounts of sub women as men. find a dom/domme that best suits YOUR needs.I am trans and im afraid i wont ever find someone who will want to engage in the dom/sub dynamic with me. dont worry! bdsm does not discriminate against anything. you can be into dom/sub regardless of your gender, ethnicity, over 18, weight, height, or anything else you feel self conscience of. there is someone out there who is looking for someone who looks just like youI am a female and want to dom someone. is that weird? heavens no! just because the articles depicts the dom as male and the sub as female does not mean that is how it always is. there is no such thing as normal in the fetish community so dont worry, whatever you are into i guarantee someone else is into it as well. there are equal amounts of dominant women as well as dominant men and dominant nonbinary people. dont worry it’s all normal!Now that we have that cleared up, what is sadism/what is a sadist? a sexual sadist is someone who takes pleasure and gets off on hurting someone else. you should not feel guilty about this. as long as you are participating in s/m with a willing partner where the proper precautions of been taken place then there is nothing wrong. So is masochism/masochist the counterpart? yes! a sexual masochist is someone who takes pleasure in and gets off on receiving pain. do not feel guilty if you are a masochist. it is perfectly natural to enjoy pain and as long as you are participating in s/m with a willing participant and the proper safety precautions have been taken place then it is all okay Can i be a sadist and a masochist? of course you can. that is called being a sadomasochist i believe. you can also just call it being a switch. whatever the case is there is nothing wrong with enjoying receiving as well as giving pain.What are the proper safety precautions?the participates are willing. consent is everything. even if you are doing rape play all parties involved should agree to it prior.they have agreed to the scene before. tell your partner what you want to happen/what will happen and make sure they are okay with. spontaneous is fun but being safe is more funif it is anything involving exchanging of liquids such as blood play or cumming inside the people have been tested and are clean of anything. if it is involving bodily liquids again make sure the area is clean and bacteria free. whatever you are using such as needles are sterilized and the toys are sanitized. infections can be a bitchsafewords/signs are involved. if you need ideas for safewords use the traffic light system. green means go, yellow means proceed with caution, red means stopwhoever is domming checks in periodically to make sure the sub(s) are okay. it does not matter if it ruins the scene, making sure everyone is okay whether it be the dom or sub is so important. aftercare happens afterwards. i dont care what the scene was or if it was a punishment. aftercare should always happen. if the dom does not preform aftercare AFTER you ask them to leave it. some people do not know that aftercare is as important as it is. this helps avoid dom/sub dropall wounds are attended to. not only is this an awesome form of aftercare but this prevents any infections or nasty things like thatWhat are the different kinds of dom/sub dynamics?dominant and submissive typesmany different relationship typestypes of doms as well as subsdifferent types of substypes of dominantsIs dom/sub always sexual? Nope! you can have a nonsexual relationship with your dom/sub/switch. Where can i meet people like me?bdsm dating site reviewsfetlifealttop bdsm social networking sitesHow should i start getting into bdsm? slowly. this is you journey. do not do anything you are not ready for. spend at least 1 month researching it finding out what you want to try what you dont want to and what you will never do. make some friends, ask questions. do not feel stupid for asking questions that you do not know the answer to. it’s better to be educated and keep yourself safe then not ask and get hurt. beware of abusive doms/subs/switches. learn the redflags and keep your guard up. do not do anything you are not comfortable with. if the dom/sub/switch is yelling at you to do something or telling you to do something that you are uncomfortable with and they know you are then leave them. they are not worthy of you they only care about their pleasure. What are some good sites for toys with discreet shipping?amazon. use with caution though. usually they are discreet but not always. dont think you will get cheap stuff from amazon almost all my toys are from there and there are all amazing. i love amazonadam and evethe adult toy shopagent provocateur pure romancetoo timidliberatoramazingeden fantasysbabelandToys are super expensive though, what about on a budget?bdsm on a budgetsex toys you can make at homebudget bdsmbdsm at homethrift store bdsmMisc. stuffhow to make your slave feel owned101 ways to show your sub you love thema kinkster’s guide to dominancewhat is sub drop?the emotional side to sub dropsub space, aftercare, and sub dropdom dropaftercare for dominants Myeyeherbody approved sex info! ♨ -- source link