I can’t stand the idea of a Dom who does nothing but bark orders and push his sub around.
I can’t stand the idea of a Dom who does nothing but bark orders and push his sub around. Anyone who does that does not have a submissive. He has a rag doll. Yet at the time time, giving your sub complete freedom to do anything means you are no more a Dom to your sub than a man is to a cat. Maintaining that balance is a difficult thing. And it’s different for everyone. Some submissives need very strict structure and severe discipline. Some need very little. But all need some. Grace is only possible when there are things to be held back. -- source link
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