Posted @withrepost • @holisticallygrace We can acknowledge that our caretakers did the best they cou

Posted @withrepost • @holisticallygrace We can acknowledge that our caretakers did the best they could given their emotional maturity AND validate the harm they create(d) for our well being. ⠀.⠀If you didn’t already know, I’m not a fan of labels, especially when they come about in the form of “good” or “bad.” You see, they often box us in, create a world of “either/or” when the reality is our world is filled with “AND”.⠀.⠀We can be a “good” child (we will always be a child to our caretakers, regardless of age) AND know that their behaviors are/were toxic and caused a lot of pain. We can understand their own histories AND affirm that it doesn’t condone the harm or consequences of their actions.⠀.⠀As children, we’re not really able to see things this way, information needs to be broken down into “good” or “bad” so it can be digested easily. Unfortunately, this system follows us into our adulthood and we box ourselves in, unable to see another narrative. If we disagree, if we want to do things differently, if we set boundaries, if we disconnect…well that must mean we are “bad."⠀.⠀Things are so much more complex than "good” or “bad.” Life is complicated, messy and it’s impossible for everything to be broken down into such basic black/white terms.⠀.⠀If we seek to thrive, well, we have to push outside our established labels, the “either/or” world and start shifting towards “AND."⠀⠀*⠀*⠀*⠀*⠀*⠀#communication #innerchild #innerwork #communicationskills #childhoodtrauma #familytherapy #bekindtoyourmind #boundaries #healthyboundaries #emotionalhealing #bekindtoyourself #selfcompassion #selfkindness #selfhealers #copingskills #selfhelp #nourishyourself #nourishyourmind #lookwithin #emotionalintelligence #feelyourfeelings #selfhealing #honoryourself #healingmyself #emotionalwellbeing #youareenough #takecareofyouhttps://www.instagram.com/p/B5DlfGPDGHPNzLvb0ziVNRZjCtTS395dTW2IPE0/?igshid=xr7vcy7do75l -- source link

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